Let’s make contact!!
‘Can you add me on facebook or twitter? Let’s have some contact!‘
Contact?
I wonder why there is a decline in our contacts. Maybe the answer is very simple and it’s just because there is technology which makes it possible, but that doesn’t explain why people would choose to use it to make contact which isn’t real contact. People seem to have status if they have a lot of friends on facebook or twitter, but facebook and twitter seem to reduce the real contact between people. If we read or type to someone, it’s just indirect contact which can be compared to writing letters a few decades ago. People have some kind of contact, but all kinds of feelings like joy are very hard to share with such kinds of means, because you need to have a physical presence of another person in order to do so. The technology however seems to want to, in order to sell enough and adapt to capitalism, provide in this need. Skype can be used for video-chat and voice-chat and you can see eachother face-to-face. But still you aren’t really present, you know that after all it’s just a screen which you are looking at and talking with and although there is a real person who also makes actions at the other side, the question remains if you could really consider it as contact. I read another blog here on WordPress where a user complained about how Facebook made her life very difficult because of all kinds of ways in which she had to satisfy the other users on Facebook with which she was connected. It just seems to have changed into a thing in order to satisfy our brains, getting a lot of contacts in order to make it feel like you have friends. The fact is that friends won’t be there if you have a lot of contacts on facebook or twitter, there are even people who don’t have and use any social media and have more friends or a small group of better friends, just because they realize that contact always depends on the will to be actually present by another person. If you just click somewhere or type something, you aren’t really showing that you are motivated for a certain contact and you just show how well you are in typing or clicking on a button, but the actual contact isn’t the thing which you are showing. You have to wonder if you can consider a certain person really as a friend if he or she only wants to contact you with social media and doesn’t even want to see you in real life if you ask for it.
There seems to be a demand nevertheless to join into the circle of social-media users and the great network of having-no-real-contacts-but-it’s-good-for-my-business. The reason why we all switch to social media is probably because it’s the easiest way to know something of other people if you need to know something and because it’s a very easy way which won’t cost you a lot of money at all for your business if you want to contact other people. It’s also the reason WHY people make big networks on facebook and twitter, because their job chances increase and their chances of surviving increase in this way. Contacts are very important nowadays in our jobs and schools and that’s why people tend to use the easiest way to make it, but we have to differentiate different kinds of contact.
What kind of contact is there?
One of the first and most important kinds of contacts is the real face-to-face contact which is used by primitive tribes, people who want to show love to eachother, in a family and other contacts where intimacy seems to be really important.
Another contact is the indirect contact which can itself be subdivided in the indirect contact which is written, the one which is spoken and the one which can be seen. Those can also be combined. The written one was the first one, which already existed for some centurys in writing letters to eachother, the spoken one was created when phones were invented and the last one where we can see eachother seems to be there since we can use modern technology.
The first one seems to be the most important one, not only because it shows a real sense of empathy, but also because some of the definitions of contact are:
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